Dates

Alright, so lets talk first dates. Well, dates at all. I would lump dates into categories.

Dinner date- These are my pick for best first dates. This way you can get to know someone sufficiently, you get time to talk, but these leave little room for physical contact. They can also be awful if the person is dull and you can’t get out! Then, there is the issue of who is paying? And how do you choose where to go is always a chore!

Drinks- This seems to be the new thing in dating. Just go for drinks to see if you like the person. This gives an indeterminate amount of time. It could lead to your date drinking WAY too much, but it does allow you to leave a bit better than a full dinner. It keeps the financial responsibility low as well. If it doesn’t work, the guy (usually) isn’t out too much money. If it does work however, you can be at the bar late and close the place (as I did Saturday night)! I don’t mind this for a first date, although I prefer dinner, but later on in the relationship it also works, but it usually ends up the two of you on the couch with a 6 pack instead of the bar.

Coffee- Okay, well I think this is a cop-out! This isn’t a real date. First off, I don’t drink coffee. Second, it’s weird. It ends up feeling more like a job interview to me. It’s also kind of cheap. Okay and

Lunch date- yes I have had one of these as a first date before! It went well, but he never called. I think it’s because it also feels like a job interview. I think there might be something with the whole first dates during the day time thing. They can really suck. Emphasis on CAN though.

Activity dates-These are my favorite dates. They can be simple like going to the arcade or the zoo or something. I have tons of ideas for these from the art museum to shooting guns. Sometimes these don’t facilitate talking, may cost more and are hard to judge for how to choose for a first date. These really let you get to know someone though. Are they up for anything? Are they athletic or artsy or interested in the same things you are? Do they want to try new things? I think it really lets you learn things about someone that they might not come out and say.

Movie date- I guess this is technically an activity date, but it gets its own category. Avoid this for a first date, please! All kinds of things can go wrong. The only time I would allow this is if you went out to dinner, both talked about a movie you wanted to see and the date was going awesome, then go out for a movie after. Other than that, this date allows minimum talking and can be extremely awkward for physical affection. If you don’t want him to touch you, he will probably put his arm around you. Then you have to sit for 2 hours wishing his sweaty hand wasn’t so close to your face. Hahaha Plus, you could end up wishing for 2 hours that you were anywhere else in the world at that moment. Once you know someone well, these dates are perfectly fine! At some point you stop having so much stuff to talk about anyway and a movie is a nice relaxing time to enjoy together.

Double date- Please avoid this for a first date. It’s so awkwardddddd. Usually 3 people know each other and one is left out of that. Leave this for later!

Date with friends- See above, this is also weird. One friend decided to invite someone she was talking to online to a sports bar when we were watching football as a group. She showed us a pic and then the date showed up and looked nothing like the photo. I am sure It was extremely awkward for the date as well. A bunch of people they don’t know and they just wanted to get to know my friend. Well, let’s just say, there was no second date.

 

What is your favorite first date? How about later?