5 things single girls wish you would stop saying to them…

This is a Patti Stanger article… http://www.pattiknows.com/5-things-single-girls-wish-youd-stop-saying-to-them/?utm_content=buffer70f69&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

I am putting my spin on…

1.”Why are you single? “- Hell, i dunno…same reason you were before you found your husband….

-I also hate this when dates ask me this…. ummm…? Its sort of like my other dreaded question… “Tell me more about yourself”… thats pretty hard to answer, reword that question! say “What do you like to do for fun?”, or “Whats your family like?”…

2. “You’re too picky” – umm no. I am not settling for something that isn’t great, i would rather be single than unhappy in a bad relationship!

3.”What are you waiting for?” – I dont get asked this much, but friends who are in happy relationships but not yet ready for marriage do. I think its rude! None of your business!

4. “I have a guy for you. I don’t know him that well, but…” -people hate being set up, especially if you don’t know them well!!!!

5. “Didn’t invite you because its a couples thing and you’d feel weird”- I dunno, make it group thing instead of a couples thing?

 

some more that need added:

6. “You’ve got to put yourself out there” – i don’t personally get this often, because i am obviously trying…

7. “When you stop trying, you will find someone”- REALLY? i get this a lot, and i am SICK and tired of it!!!!! I am a go-getter, i go after what i want, this is just who I am. I don’t think sitting back ever made things happen. Did Kate Middleton sit back and let William come to her? Absolutely NOT! she decided to go to the same university as him, became friends with him. She went after what she wanted, and she got it. (it came out that her mother helped this all happen, on purpose).

btw, i love Kate Middleton. 

Painting with wine date…

So about a week or maybe two ago (i am trying to forget), i went on a date from tinder. We didn’t talk a lot before he asked me to go out with him because he had a Groupon to the pARTy studio. I was seriously impressed that he actually planned a real date. Something interesting, fun and creative. I got there first and had to wait on him (pet peeve). He baked a brie pie and brought a bottle of red wine. IMPRESSED! The brie was delish, but our conversation while painting was minimal and boring. It was easy to tell we didn’t really have chemistry, it was more like an interview or a business relationship, even though i felt like i should flirt. I was also annoyed by what he painted, he went crazy and painted a head? I know this is creative for some of my friends, but i am very type A and this bothers me. We are at a painting studio to paint the picture they are instructing us on, right? I mean, i have everything at home to paint whatever i want….but that’s just me. We have discussed this before, for some reason i am not into artsy types. I would rather have a strong silent type that isn’t very creative. Oh well. 

 

Here is our art! I blurred his face because he is a really nice guy, not a jerk! He just isn’t the right guy for me. Excuse me being a tool. 

 

 

more tinder…. umm fun?

 

ugh rescue me from these loosers!!!!

i guess i will just label you “blog material” and move on….

okay, i know most of you are excited to hear about my date with guy across the hall (aka Ryan). Well it was a doosey. UGH!

So Saturday he kinda asked me out, but not really…he wanted me to come out with his friends to drink at a bar. Which made it pretty clear to me that he is not all that into me. I am of the old school where if he really liked me, he would take me out just me and him. So i went anyway, he made me find him at the bar and we talked shortly.  Then i went and met his friends, i bonded with one of the girls and Ryan disappeared. He wanted to go smoke, even though weeks ago he told me he didn’t smoke. UMM that’s a BIG lie, and i hate lies. UGH!! 

He bought shots and got pretty plastered and after he wasn’t near me most of the night, was going to get a cab to his car and then drive home. I was not about to allow him to drive as drunk as he was. So i offered to take him home. He took this as i wanted to go home with him. Then he admitted that he lives with his mom (at age 27). His friend picked up some girl in the bar and took her home. On the way home he admitted he also enjoys smoking and smoking weed and has bad spending habits. He spent $90 at the bar in one night. He was just digging and digging and digging his own hole. I drove him home and he made me stop and get him steak and shake. Then we get to his house and he kept asking me to come in. I told him no, and he tried to go in for a kiss. I turned my face and he got my cheek. I don’t know how he couldn’t tell i was pissed an annoyed…. 

 

Honestly, we haven’t spoken since. My biggest problem with this whole thing? the LIE!