Random Dating thoughts

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So I met a new friend this weekend and i got to talk to her about our struggles to find men. Real men! She said whats in the dating pool are leftovers. I have to slightly agree and disagree. hahah I do believe there are good guys out there!

http://www.collegehumor.com/post/6960382/this-dude-is-really-good-at-tinder

Okay, so maybe not that guy…. But you should read it for some laughs. 

 

Anyways, she told me that she went on first dates where the guy stuck her with the check! So she paid her half and left! AMEN girl!

 

So a date I had about a month ago…. He changed the oil in my car for free, which was awesome. (I brought him Jack and coke to repay that). Then he took me to a concert the next night. I thought he seemed a bit young and immature. He was just obviously a bit wild. So we are at the concert, and a lady taps him on the shoulder. It was HIS MOM. HAHA at the concert!! lol Awkwarddddd. Its okay though, he supposedly didn’t know she was going to the same concert. So then part of the way through the concert, he put his thumbs through my belt loops….We were dancing and all but it was a bit awkward. OHHHH, i forgot, he never offered to buy any of my drinks for the night… i can totally understand if he doesn’t want to pay for all of the overpriced beer that night, but to not offer for even the first round? Am i crazy on this? 

 

http://thoughtcatalog.com/christopher-hudspeth/2014/04/18-ugly-truths-about-modern-dating-that-you-have-to-deal-with/#9Ghgbb5Vr4rI3pyP.01

I was reading this article today… I don’t agree with all of them, but 

#7-“The only difference between your actions being romantic and creepy is how attractive the other person finds you. That’s it, that’s all.”

OMG!!! SO TRUE! hahaha 

8. “Let’s chill” & “Wanna hang out?” are vague phrases that likely mean “let’s hookup” — and while you probably hate receiving them, they’re the common way to invite someone to spend time these days, and appear to be here to stay.

YUP< i have heard this too many times. Add “Wanna come cuddle?” to that list.

9. “Some people just want to hookup and if you’re seeking more than sex, they won’t tell you that they’re the wrong person for you. At least, not untilafter they score your prize. While human decency is ideal, honesty isn’t mandatory.”

Honesty is a big deal with me, i wish more people thought the same… 😦

10. “The text message you sent went through. If they didn’t respond, it wasn’t because of malfunctioning phone carrier services.”

 I always say, you are not too busy to send a text, it takes about 30 seconds to send me a message. Don’t have 30 seconds? I don’t know ANYONE THAT busy. 

16. ” When dating, instead of expressing how they feel directly to you, a person is more likely to post a Facebook status or Instagram a Tumblr-esque photo of a sunset with a quote or song lyric of someone else’s words on it, and while it may not mention your name, it’s blatantly directed at you.”

HAHA we girls do this… lol 

18. “If you get dumped, it’s probably going to be pretty brutal. People can cut ties over the phone and avoid seeing the tears stream down your face or end things via text and avoid hearing the pain in your cracking voice and sniffling nose. Send a lengthy text and voilà, relationship over. The easy way out is far from the most considerate.”

Been there. It was awful to be dumped in a text. AWFUL 

 

Happy Monday Y’all!

5 things single girls wish you would stop saying to them…

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This is a Patti Stanger article… http://www.pattiknows.com/5-things-single-girls-wish-youd-stop-saying-to-them/?utm_content=buffer70f69&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer

I am putting my spin on…

1.”Why are you single? “- Hell, i dunno…same reason you were before you found your husband….

-I also hate this when dates ask me this…. ummm…? Its sort of like my other dreaded question… “Tell me more about yourself”… thats pretty hard to answer, reword that question! say “What do you like to do for fun?”, or “Whats your family like?”…

2. “You’re too picky” – umm no. I am not settling for something that isn’t great, i would rather be single than unhappy in a bad relationship!

3.”What are you waiting for?” – I dont get asked this much, but friends who are in happy relationships but not yet ready for marriage do. I think its rude! None of your business!

4. “I have a guy for you. I don’t know him that well, but…” -people hate being set up, especially if you don’t know them well!!!!

5. “Didn’t invite you because its a couples thing and you’d feel weird”- I dunno, make it group thing instead of a couples thing?

 

some more that need added:

6. “You’ve got to put yourself out there” – i don’t personally get this often, because i am obviously trying…

7. “When you stop trying, you will find someone”- REALLY? i get this a lot, and i am SICK and tired of it!!!!! I am a go-getter, i go after what i want, this is just who I am. I don’t think sitting back ever made things happen. Did Kate Middleton sit back and let William come to her? Absolutely NOT! she decided to go to the same university as him, became friends with him. She went after what she wanted, and she got it. (it came out that her mother helped this all happen, on purpose).

btw, i love Kate Middleton. 

Tips for men!

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So GeekTaz commented on one of my posts and i decided to read her dating blog a bit! Her tips for men caught my eye! I wish i could reblog but its from another blog site. or i am just incompetent. one of the two. lol

http://www.frogkisses.net/tips-for-frogs-men/

I agree with all of them EXCEPT #9, i actually do like men that hunt and fish. Personal preference and i want them to take me hunting with them! My Christmas gift to myself is about to be a new compound bow. I like my men a bit more rugged. Just a preference. Kinda like my #9 might be that they keep their extremely mushy feminine side for later. hahaha! Or their hipster side i guess.

 

Also along the lines of #10, i think the best way to approach and talk to someone on the internet dating websites is a 3 part thing. I think this goes for both guys and girls. 

1. Start with a compliment. (You have a great smile, beautiful eyes, etc). This needs to be a real compliment, not the same one for each person. Try to make it personal!

2. Mention something you have in common. The neighborhood you live in, your hobbies, something. You need to make the connection! If you don’t make this vital connection, its hard for me to identify with you. Something as simple as ” I wish i could have all the hobbies you do” or “You seem like a hard worker” or “I enjoy yoga too, how is hot yoga?” or even “I see you like to read, i do too”. This can be a statement. 

3. Ask them a question. If you dont, you are leaving it off on a weird note. Ask something about their hobbies, or something.

You can certainly tie it into the above statement! Ask them if they would like to try out something else new, etc. Just leave politics and religion out of it! hahah My favorite question is “Where would you travel if you could travel anywhere?”, this is because i love to travel and i would like to know if they are the type of person who dreams big or small. Or if they like to travel or don’t really care. It also shows me if they have any imagination. Search the web for some cool getting to know you questions. There are loads out there. Basically, if you like the person, make them want to reply.